It is in human genetic makeup to crave for special attention, especially from one special person he or she could get deeply connected to, laughing at inside jokes and whispering secrets to each other. Aren’t these small things what make us happy in our relationships? It has been said that what makes a relationship stronger and more fun is not in the big gestures we make like buying a car for your partner but in small gestures like reaching for a gentle kiss…
Well we have been plagued with unhappy relationships, breakups or divorces, we have even seen our model celebrity marriages broke up on terms that are far from amicable. These often leave us with the question ‘what went wrong?’
Regrettably, they say experience is the best teacher. Well from people who have voiced their regrets mostly beginning with ‘I should have…’ or ‘If I had…’ one can definitely draw up keys or rather building blocks for better relationships.
Below are building blocks for happier relationships:
Love yourself
You can’t love someone if you don’t love yourself, no matter how hard you try. In fact, your lack of self-love would only fill you with fears of what is not real. You will become insecure and your insecurity would ebb away whatever trust you try to muster and there is definitely no happy relationship without trust. This will cause friction and you will get hurt. Eventually, the relationship will break leaving you feeling empty and more hateful towards yourself. Self-love creates a capacity to love others and when two self-loving individuals are in a relationship they love to the fullest potential.
Trust
Being in a relationship without trust is toxic. It would only stress and depress you. First, make sure you have confidence and self-love before beginning a relationship. This will make it easy for you to trust, because persons with self-love and confidence know they are too lovable not to be loved. Also, if your partner is not trustworthy, ask yourself why you’re staying? The answer to that is of a question related to your self-worth as an individual.
Be yourself
Build a relationship based on openness without lies or pretense. Do not try to please when you are not comfortable. Be with someone who is honest around you and not pretentious, likewise be completely yourself around such person and you will see that your relationship will be happier and more fun. If a person dislikes your true self then there is no point in being in a relationship with such a person, there will be friction because you won’t be free and you cannot pretend forever.
Communicate with your partner
This involves honesty as well. Honesty in respect to your feelings. It is all about not bottling your concerns, but opening up on how you feel about issues that concern your relationship. Communicate to each other with love and compassion and always keep your egos at bay. Speak and listen to each other. Also, make it a habit to hold conversations about things each of you find interesting.
Connect with your partner
This is all about making sufficient time for your partner. Remembering anniversaries, reminding your partner of how much you love him or her, making sweet gestures just to make your partner happy, doing things together and seeking to have fun together. Above all enjoy life together. This is important because your relationship is what matters at the end. Actually, a happy relationship with your partner at home makes you happy outside as you interact with friends and colleagues. Make connection to your partner a priority.
Once you nurture self-love, trust, honesty, communication and connection in your relationship, you will one day, in retrospect, say your relationship is the happiest…
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