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OPINION: Are Marriages made in heaven?
BY VICTORIA NGOZI IKEANO
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Recent public spats between two couples got one reflecting on the concept of marriage. In one instance, a 25 year-old married to a billionaire senator voluntarily separated from him citing lack of freedom. But the billionaire accused his apparently now estranged wife of drug abuse, alleging that this had made her to be misbehaving. He vowed not to allow her back into his house unless she completes her rehabilitation programme.
In another instance a notable musician was reportedly arrested, handcuffed by United Kingdom police officers following what appeared like an altercation with his new wife at a shopping mall there. This popular artist who clocked 40 years sometime ago and whose new wife put to bed recently is said to now have eight children from four women. A member of the musician’s management team said in an interview that the new wife has an overbearing, possessive attitude towards him and wants him to let go of his music career for the time being and concentrate on their family (husband, wife, child) matters. He also hinted at drug abuse.
Wherever one or both couple indulge in hard drugs, excessive drinking and the like, there is no happiness there. People indulge in these excesses as a way of getting some relief. But such a so-called relief is illusory, akin to building castles in the air. It is an artificial rather than a genuine means of solving a problem. Instead such an indulgence, abuse has negative effects on the body and may ultimately lead to death…
The first cited example proves that money does not guarantee happiness. We may have more than enough money to acquire all the things that facilitate living here on earth, able to acquire all the luxuries of the earth, yet what all these earthly possessions give us is FUN not happiness. Happiness is of the soul, it is a characteristic of the spirit which is the inner core of a human being, the physical body being just its cloak, a covering, a tool that it needs to be able to work here on earth; during its time on earth. The spirit animates the body. At death, the spirit leaves behind the body and journeys to its homogenous sphere in the spiritual realm, that is, paradise, heaven… Thus, the body feels fun while the soul/spirit experiences happiness, joy, bliss;
“Marriages are made in heaven”. Before we delve into this sentence. Let us first reflect on the state of marriages today. Fact of the matter is that most marriages today are beset with problems, fraught with disharmony. And this is a worldwide phenomenon, cutting across all classes of persons, viz, the upper class, middle class and lower classes; the elites and masses. It is not peculiar to any one people or country. Rather it is pervasive, cutting across all peoples, not least Nigerians. It has been like that for several decades but we now have more of crashed marriages than ever before. We have heard/read of royalties, people with blue blood divorcing, politicians/leaders separating from their spouses, middle class persons turning their backs on their marriages, the common man cum average person calling it quits with their marriages, and so on and so forth. We get to hear more of crashed marriages involving celebrities, entertainers and those in similar fields because these thrive on the media and so their marriage collapses are more often splashed on the media, especially social media.
However, there are thousands of other couples that quietly dissolve their marriages without making any noise about it, so to speak. Still, there are thousands, millions of women whose marriages though joyless, acrimonious, nonetheless, stick to it because of societal pressures, cultural norms. This is particularly so in Africa where women are asked to endure all manner of iniquities, domestic violence they experience in their marriages, because of their kids, financial incapacity, the so-called respectability that society confers on a married woman.
Marriages crash for a variety of reasons, chief among which is incompatibility of the couple. People get married nowadays mainly for mundane, earthly, external reasons and not because of the stirrings of their souls, their inner being, their spirits. Thus we have billionaires, royalties, governors/leaders generally arranging for marriages within their folds with a view to perpetuating their socio-economic class, the upper class. There are those who marry for money, to be able to “secure their future” and those of their unborn children. Then there are those who go into marriage because a person is pretty, handsome, beautiful. All of the above reasons are purely ephemeral. And as they are ephemeral, the marriages entered on such basis are bound to be ephemeral, collapse sooner than later. They are unsustainable in the long run. Such marriages are largely based on ulterior motives rather than on pure love that issues from the soul. Love is blind, so goes an adage. True love does not consider whether one is a millionaire or not; whether one is pretty or not; whether one is endowed in the earthly sense or not. Rather, it wells up from out of the soul and on meeting with kindred soul they naturally gravitate towards each other.
“Marriages are made in heaven”. The Almighty in creating us imbued us all with varying qualities. When a man enters into a relationship with a woman with qualities that are complementary to his and consummates it with marriage, there will be harmony in such a marriage because they complement each other and any activity they jointly embark upon will be of full value because it is infused with joy and love, each living to the joy and happiness of the other. Such are the marriages that are made, ‘approved’ in heaven. Needless to add that such marriages are enduring, long lasting, beneficial to the society at large.because of the harmony within them.
Victoria N. Ikeano writes via victoriangozii@gmail.com 08033077519
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“They Said I Wanted to Kill Him” – Aisha Buhari Recounts How Buhari’s Illness Began in 2017
By: Fabian Apechihin
Former First Lady Aisha Buhari has revealed that rumours within Aso Rock claiming she wanted to kill her husband, Muhammadu Buhari, played a major role in the health crisis that forced him to take a prolonged medical leave in 2017.
According to her, the gossip disrupted Buhari’s strict feeding and nutrition routine, ultimately contributing to the illness that kept him away from office for 154 days that year. She stressed that Buhari’s condition was neither mysterious nor the result of poisoning.
Aisha’s account is contained in a new biography, From Soldier to Statesman: The Legacy of Muhammadu Buhari, written by Charles Omole and launched on Monday at the State House. The 600-page book traces Buhari’s life from his childhood in Daura, Katsina State, to his death in a London hospital in July 2025.
The book reveals that Aisha personally supervised Buhari’s meals and supplements at fixed times, a routine she said was vital for “a slender man with a long history of malnutrition symptoms.” She recalled advising those around him: “Elderly bodies require gentle, consistent support. He doesn’t have a chronic illness. Keep him on schedule.”
According to the biography, Aisha convened a meeting with key aides, including Buhari’s physician, Dr Suhayb Rafindadi, his chief security officer, Bashir Abubakar, the housekeeper, and the Director-General of the DSS, to establish a structured feeding plan.
She explained that the routine involved “daily, at specific hours, cups and bowls with tailored vitamin powders and oils, a touch of protein here, a change to cereals there.”
However, the system eventually collapsed.
“Then came the gossip and the fearmongering. They said I wanted to kill him,” the book quoted her as saying.
Aisha said Buhari believed the rumours for about a week, began locking his room, altered his habits, skipped meals and stopped taking his supplements.
“For a year, he did not have lunch. They mismanaged his meals,” she said.
This decline, the book noted, culminated in Buhari’s extended medical trips to the United Kingdom in 2017, during which he transferred power to then Vice-President Yemi Osinbajo. Omole added that Buhari later admitted he had “never been so ill” and required blood transfusions during that period.
Aisha firmly dismissed claims that her husband was poisoned, insisting that the real cause was the breakdown of his nutrition routine. “Loss of a routine, ‘my nutrition,’ was the genesis of the crisis,” she said.
She disclosed that doctors in London prescribed a stricter nutritional plan, which Buhari initially resisted, prompting her to personally take charge of administering his supplements by adding them to his meals.
“After just three days, he threw away the stick he was walking with. After a week, he was receiving relatives,” she recalled.
The author also noted that Buhari’s medical absences fuelled rumours and conspiracy theories, including claims that he had been replaced by a body double known as “Jibril of Sudan.” Aisha dismissed the allegations as absurd, blaming poor communication for allowing “banal developments to metastasise into conspiracies.”
She further alleged that deep mistrust within the presidency, including fears of surveillance and claims that Buhari’s office was bugged, added to the pressure and anxiety that marked his final years in office.
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Peter Obi Blames Leadership Failures for Nigeria’s 80 Million Youth Unemployment Crisis
By: Fabian Apechihin
Labour Party presidential candidate Peter Obi has criticised Nigeria’s worsening youth unemployment, calling it a glaring failure of leadership. He cited a recent ActionAid/Plan International report estimating that over 80 million young Nigerians are currently without jobs.
Speaking on Tuesday, Obi noted that Nigeria now has the highest absolute number of unemployed youths in the world, a situation he attributes to poor economic management amid the country’s large population. He contrasted this with South Africa, where youth unemployment stands at around 60 per cent—roughly six million young people, still more than 70 million fewer than in Nigeria.
Obi argued that youth unemployment is not just a challenge for the young but a reflection of decades of mismanagement, political greed, and misplaced priorities. With approximately 75 per cent of Nigerians under the age of 35, he described the situation as a national emergency.
Instead of investing in youths as productive assets or supporting micro, small, and medium-sized enterprises (MSMEs) to drive growth, successive governments, he said, have engaged in wasteful spending, corruption, unproductive borrowing, and policies that deepen poverty.
“Nigeria does not lack entrepreneurial and resourceful youths. What we lack are leaders who are intentional about creating opportunities through deliberate investments in production and prudent, transparent, people-centred governance,” Obi said.
He emphasised that meaningful job creation requires leadership that recognises youths as the engine of national productivity and growth. Obi also urged young Nigerians to participate actively in politics, to elect leaders who genuinely represent their interests and the country’s future.
“Nigeria deserves competent, credible, compassionate, and capable leadership, one that will create opportunities and empower our young people,” he concluded.
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BREAKING: Nigeria’s World Cup Hopes Rekindled as DR Congo Face Possible Sanctions
By: Fabian Apechihin
Nigeria’s chances of qualifying for the 2026 FIFA World Cup have received a fresh boost amid a developing controversy involving DR Congo. According to NFF officials, the Congolese Football Federation may face sanctions over what is being described as irregularities in player eligibility.
“Our concern is that FIFA was misled into clearing them. FIFA acts based on submitted information; enforcing Congo’s domestic regulations is not their responsibility. The process appears fraudulent,” NFF spokesperson Sanusi explained.
The situation has reignited hope among Nigerian fans, who have not seen the Super Eagles at a World Cup since 2018 and narrowly missed the 2022 tournament in Qatar. A failure to qualify for 2026 would have marked consecutive absences for Africa’s most populous nation.
For DR Congo, the controversy threatens what could have been a landmark return to the global stage. The country has only previously appeared at the World Cup once, in 1974, under the name Zaire.
As the Nigerian Football Federation awaits FIFA’s response, the Super Eagles’ 2026 World Cup dream, once in doubt, now hangs in the balance, offering a renewed sense of optimism for supporters.
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