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OPINION: Are Marriages made in heaven?
BY VICTORIA NGOZI IKEANO
victoriangozii@gmail.com 08033077519
Recent public spats between two couples got one reflecting on the concept of marriage. In one instance, a 25 year-old married to a billionaire senator voluntarily separated from him citing lack of freedom. But the billionaire accused his apparently now estranged wife of drug abuse, alleging that this had made her to be misbehaving. He vowed not to allow her back into his house unless she completes her rehabilitation programme.
In another instance a notable musician was reportedly arrested, handcuffed by United Kingdom police officers following what appeared like an altercation with his new wife at a shopping mall there. This popular artist who clocked 40 years sometime ago and whose new wife put to bed recently is said to now have eight children from four women. A member of the musician’s management team said in an interview that the new wife has an overbearing, possessive attitude towards him and wants him to let go of his music career for the time being and concentrate on their family (husband, wife, child) matters. He also hinted at drug abuse.
Wherever one or both couple indulge in hard drugs, excessive drinking and the like, there is no happiness there. People indulge in these excesses as a way of getting some relief. But such a so-called relief is illusory, akin to building castles in the air. It is an artificial rather than a genuine means of solving a problem. Instead such an indulgence, abuse has negative effects on the body and may ultimately lead to death…
The first cited example proves that money does not guarantee happiness. We may have more than enough money to acquire all the things that facilitate living here on earth, able to acquire all the luxuries of the earth, yet what all these earthly possessions give us is FUN not happiness. Happiness is of the soul, it is a characteristic of the spirit which is the inner core of a human being, the physical body being just its cloak, a covering, a tool that it needs to be able to work here on earth; during its time on earth. The spirit animates the body. At death, the spirit leaves behind the body and journeys to its homogenous sphere in the spiritual realm, that is, paradise, heaven… Thus, the body feels fun while the soul/spirit experiences happiness, joy, bliss;
“Marriages are made in heaven”. Before we delve into this sentence. Let us first reflect on the state of marriages today. Fact of the matter is that most marriages today are beset with problems, fraught with disharmony. And this is a worldwide phenomenon, cutting across all classes of persons, viz, the upper class, middle class and lower classes; the elites and masses. It is not peculiar to any one people or country. Rather it is pervasive, cutting across all peoples, not least Nigerians. It has been like that for several decades but we now have more of crashed marriages than ever before. We have heard/read of royalties, people with blue blood divorcing, politicians/leaders separating from their spouses, middle class persons turning their backs on their marriages, the common man cum average person calling it quits with their marriages, and so on and so forth. We get to hear more of crashed marriages involving celebrities, entertainers and those in similar fields because these thrive on the media and so their marriage collapses are more often splashed on the media, especially social media.
However, there are thousands of other couples that quietly dissolve their marriages without making any noise about it, so to speak. Still, there are thousands, millions of women whose marriages though joyless, acrimonious, nonetheless, stick to it because of societal pressures, cultural norms. This is particularly so in Africa where women are asked to endure all manner of iniquities, domestic violence they experience in their marriages, because of their kids, financial incapacity, the so-called respectability that society confers on a married woman.
Marriages crash for a variety of reasons, chief among which is incompatibility of the couple. People get married nowadays mainly for mundane, earthly, external reasons and not because of the stirrings of their souls, their inner being, their spirits. Thus we have billionaires, royalties, governors/leaders generally arranging for marriages within their folds with a view to perpetuating their socio-economic class, the upper class. There are those who marry for money, to be able to “secure their future” and those of their unborn children. Then there are those who go into marriage because a person is pretty, handsome, beautiful. All of the above reasons are purely ephemeral. And as they are ephemeral, the marriages entered on such basis are bound to be ephemeral, collapse sooner than later. They are unsustainable in the long run. Such marriages are largely based on ulterior motives rather than on pure love that issues from the soul. Love is blind, so goes an adage. True love does not consider whether one is a millionaire or not; whether one is pretty or not; whether one is endowed in the earthly sense or not. Rather, it wells up from out of the soul and on meeting with kindred soul they naturally gravitate towards each other.
“Marriages are made in heaven”. The Almighty in creating us imbued us all with varying qualities. When a man enters into a relationship with a woman with qualities that are complementary to his and consummates it with marriage, there will be harmony in such a marriage because they complement each other and any activity they jointly embark upon will be of full value because it is infused with joy and love, each living to the joy and happiness of the other. Such are the marriages that are made, ‘approved’ in heaven. Needless to add that such marriages are enduring, long lasting, beneficial to the society at large.because of the harmony within them.
Victoria N. Ikeano writes via victoriangozii@gmail.com 08033077519
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Kwara celebrates Fela’s legacy with retrospective exhibition
Stephen Olufemi Oni, Ilorin
The Kwara State Government has celebrated the life and enduring influence of Afrobeat legend, Fela Anikulapo-Kuti, with a retrospective exhibition aimed at preserving African cultural heritage and inspiring younger generations.
The exhibition, titled Fela Anikulapo-Kuti: A Retrospective, was opened by Governor AbdulRahman AbdulRazaq at the Institute of Contemporary African Art and Film in Ilorin on Monday.
The Governor said the establishment of the institute reflected his administration’s belief that development should extend beyond physical infrastructure to include spaces that promote creativity, knowledge and economic opportunities.
“When we established the Institute of Contemporary African Art & Film, our vision was clear: development must go beyond roads, bridges and buildings to create spaces for creativity, knowledge and opportunity,” AbdulRazaq said.
According to him, cultural infrastructure plays an important role in connecting people to their history, broadening their imagination and encouraging critical thinking.
“Physical infrastructure connects places; cultural infrastructure connects people to their history, expands their imagination and challenges their thinking,” the Governor said.
AbdulRazaq said the institute was established to preserve African stories, nurture talents and showcase the continent’s artists and thinkers to the world,
describing the decision to open the institution with an exhibition dedicated to Fela as significant, given the musician’s contribution to African music, social commentary and cultural expression.
“Fela was more than a musician. Through his music and artistic expression, he challenged conventions and confronted society with questions about power, freedom, identity and justice,” he added.
The Governor added that the late musician’s life demonstrated the capacity of artistic expression to influence public discourse and inspire social change.
The exhibition, curated by June Creative Art Advisory, led by its founder, Mrs Seun Alli, featured photography, archival materials, film, graphic works and other artistic expressions exploring Fela’s life, times and enduring influence.
AbdulRazaq commended the firm for bringing its curatorial expertise and creative vision to the project, while describing the exhibition as an opportunity for different categories of visitors to engage with the musician’s legacy.
He said the exhibition would provide students with learning opportunities beyond the classroom, inspire artists, support researchers and encourage young people to explore the creative industry.
“For students, this is a classroom beyond the classroom; for artists, inspiration; for researchers, an opportunity for deeper inquiry; and for young people, a reminder that creativity offers both self-expression and economic opportunity,” he said.
The Governor clarified that the state government was not claiming ownership of Fela’s story but was providing a platform for younger generations to encounter and learn from his legacy, adding that the state government is optimistic that the institute would promote cultural education, encourage creative enterprise, attract visitors and strengthen Kwara State’s position in Nigeria’s cultural and creative landscape.
According to him, the institution’s success would be measured by the talents it nurtured, the ideas it inspired and the opportunities it created.
“Governments change, but institutions should endure,” the Governor said, expressing the hope that the exhibition would mark the beginning of sustained cultural engagement at the institute.
“May this exhibition begin sustained cultural engagement at ICAAF and inspire our young people to create, question, discover and contribute to society,” he said.
AbdulRazaq added that the initiative reflected his administration’s commitment to building a state where cultural heritage, innovation and economic opportunities complemented one another.
In her address, the Commissioner for Communications, Hon. Bolanle Olukoju, said: “Today’s exhibition offers us an opportunity to revisit the life and works of Fela
Anikulapo-Kuti and appreciate how his music, ideas and artistic expression continue to influence generations.
“For the Ministry of Communications, this occasion speaks to an important part of our
mandate: promoting the stories, talents and creative expressions that shape our identity as a people.”
The Commissioner particularly noted that under Governor AbdulRazaq’s leadership, the State is creating opportunities for young people through investments in sectors such as film, fashion and technology.
She added: “Projects including
the Sugar Film Factory, the Garment Factory and the Ilorin Innovation Hub reflect the administration’s commitment to developing talent and supporting enterprise.
“The Institute of Contemporary African Art & Film, formerly the Ilorin Visual Arts Centre, adds an important dimension to this effort. It provides a platform for artistic expression, cultural learning and creative collaboration.
“We want young Kwarans who are passionate about painting, photography, filmmaking, fashion and design to see ICAAF as a place where they can explore their interests, learn from others and showcase their talents.
“We also encourage students to engage with art and history beyond the classroom. Fela’s story is a fitting subject for this exhibition. It demonstrates how creativity
can go beyond entertainment to shape cultural identity and influence public conversations. There is much for our young people to learn from his artistic journey and enduring impact.
“It might also interest you that kwara state was also part of Fela’s creative showcase during his lifetime.”
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2027: Ilorin West LG Boss Leads APC Mega Rally In Ubandawaki
•••Says Ward stands with APC
Stephen Olufemi Oni, Ilorin
The Executive Chairman of the Ilorin West Local Government, Mallam Shehu AbdulRahman Babatunde Ladan, has led an All Progressives Congress (APC) mega rally in Ubandawaki Ward, reaffirming the commitment of party members and supporters to the APC ahead of the 2027 general elections.
The rally attracted party leaders, grassroots mobilisers, youths, women, and other stakeholders who gathered to demonstrate their support for the party.
Addressing the gathering, Chairman Ladan declared that Ubandawaki Ward remains committed to the APC and its political leadership, expressing support for President Bola Ahmed Tinubu’s Renewed Hope Agenda, Kwara State Governor AbdulRahman AbdulRazaq, and the APC governorship candidate, Rt. Hon. Engr. Yakubu Danladi-Salihu (SYD), alongside other party candidates for the 2027 general elections.
The Chairman emphasised the importance of unity, peaceful political engagement, and sustained grassroots mobilisation in strengthening the party’s structure ahead of the forthcoming elections, urging party faithful to remain united, engage constructively with residents, and work collectively towards the party’s political objectives.
Ladan also acknowledged the importance of Ubandawaki Ward in the political landscape of Ilorin West, encouraging party leaders and supporters to maintain cordial relationships, promote inclusive participation, and sustain engagement with the electorate. He stressed that a united party structure would help strengthen internal cooperation and effective grassroots coordination.
The mega rally renewed calls for unity, loyalty, and peaceful political participation among APC members and supporters, underscoring commitment by participants to mobilising support for the party’s candidates ahead of the 2027 general elections, while promoting peace, development, and responsible democratic engagement across Ilorin West Local Government Area.
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KW-IRS Staff Threaten Strike Over Alleged Poor Remuneration
- Mgt Accuses Union Of Dishing Out False Staff Remuneration Scale
Stephen Olufemi Oni, Ilorin
The staff of the Kwara State Internal Revenue Service (KWIRS) have lamented poor welfare conditions, rising living costs and stagnant salaries they have been subjected to, despite their contributions to the state’s revenue generation.
In a statement issued by the KWIRS chapter of the Association of Senior Civil Servants of Nigeria (ASCSN), the workers lamented that their sacrifice and professionalism, which have helped to place Kwara State among the more self-reliant states in the country, have not been matched with corresponding improvement in their welfare.
The workers questioned the disparity between their contributions to the state’s revenue and their welfare, saying many of them are battling financial hardship.
“We block leakages. We are posted to hospitals and other MDAs to secure government revenue. We work under pressure day and night but we continue to struggle to meet basic needs due to poor salaries.”
The association further expressed concern that personnel costs had remained unchanged for years while other expenditure heads had continued to increase.
It also cited a salary negotiation agreement dated October 11, 2022, which reportedly stated that the adjustment would be implemented “as soon as it can be accommodated in the budget.”
According to the workers, nearly four years after the agreement, there had been no implementation or clear indication of when the adjustment would take effect, despite the rising cost of living.
The staff said expenses on school fees, house rent, transportation and food had increased significantly while their salaries remained unchanged. “We smile outside but the majority of us are bleeding inside. We cannot continue to generate wealth for the state while we wallow in abject poverty,” they declared.
Urging their colleagues to remain united and resolute in pursuing improved welfare, the association said the workers should not expect better conditions without collectively standing up for their interests.
It called on members to remain calm, vigilant and prayerful as a 14-day period beginning October 15, 2026, counts down, without specifying further details in the statement about the expected action at its conclusion.
Reacting to the KW-IRS staff allegations, the Management, while
reaffirm its commitment to professionalism, political neutrality and its statutory mandate, expressed dismay over public speculation on staff remuneration and attempts to politicise unverified internal administrative communications.
“Management is concerned by attempts to exploit unverified internal administrative communications for political purposes, create unnecessary tension and distract the Service from its responsibilities. KWIRS will not be distracted from its mandate by such narratives,” said the Management.
It added: “The isolated salary figures being circulated on social media do not represent the full remuneration structure or total emoluments of KWIRS staff. Staff compensation extends beyond regular monthly salaries and includes the following benefits, in accordance with applicable policies and approved arrangements:
“Annual and Performance-Related Bonuses: Annual, festive, and situational bonuses linked to revenue performance milestones and staff performance and situational economic palliatives are paid periodically to staff members
“Annual Leave Allowance: A separate annual payment in addition to regular monthly remuneration.
Staff Welfare and Operational Support: Structured measures designed to support staff welfare and professional development throughout their careers.
“Accordingly, assessing staff remuneration solely on selectively circulated salary figures presents an incomplete picture of the Service’s compensation and welfare structure.
“Management remains committed to staff welfare, motivation and professional development. The Service will continue to strengthen policies and operational processes that support staff well-being and performance, within government-approved resource allocations and applicable administrative frameworks. The Service remains one of the Government Institutions with the most recruitment requests and this is a testament of Management’s commitment to staff welfare.
“KWIRS urges members of the public, taxpayers and other stakeholders to disregard unverified and misleading narratives, verify information before sharing it, and rely on official Service communications for accurate information about its operations and staff policies.
“All stakeholders are encouraged to refrain from politicising internal administrative matters or spreading claims capable of undermining institutional harmony and public confidence.
“KWIRS remains focused on its statutory responsibilities and committed to mobilising revenue for the economic growth and sustainable development of Kwara State.”
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