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OPINION: Are Marriages made in heaven?

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BY VICTORIA NGOZI IKEANO
 
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Recent public spats between two couples got one reflecting on the concept of marriage. In one instance, a 25 year-old married to a billionaire senator voluntarily separated from him citing lack of freedom. But the billionaire accused his apparently now estranged wife of drug abuse, alleging that this had made her to be misbehaving. He vowed not to allow her back into his house unless she completes her rehabilitation programme.
 
 In another instance a notable musician was reportedly arrested, handcuffed by  United Kingdom police officers following what appeared like an altercation with his new wife at a shopping mall there. This popular artist who clocked 40 years sometime ago and whose new wife put to bed recently is said to now have eight children from four women.  A member of the musician’s management team said in an interview that the new wife has an overbearing, possessive attitude towards him and wants him to let go of his music career for the time being and concentrate on their family (husband, wife, child) matters. He also hinted at drug abuse.
 
Wherever one or both couple indulge in hard drugs, excessive drinking and the like, there is no happiness there. People indulge in these excesses as a way of getting some relief. But such a so-called relief is illusory, akin to building castles in the air. It is an artificial rather than a genuine means of solving a problem. Instead such an indulgence, abuse has negative effects on the body and may ultimately lead to death…
 
   The first cited example proves that money does not guarantee happiness. We may have more than enough money to acquire all the things that facilitate living here on earth, able to acquire all the luxuries of the earth, yet what all these earthly possessions give us is FUN not happiness. Happiness is of the soul, it is a characteristic of the spirit which is the inner core of a human being, the physical body being just its cloak, a covering, a tool that it needs to be able to work here on earth; during its time on earth. The spirit animates the body. At death, the spirit leaves behind the body and journeys to its homogenous sphere in the spiritual realm, that is, paradise, heaven…  Thus, the body feels fun while the soul/spirit experiences happiness, joy, bliss;  
 
    “Marriages are made in heaven”. Before we delve into this sentence. Let us first reflect on the state of marriages today. Fact of the matter is that most marriages today are beset with problems, fraught with disharmony. And this is a worldwide phenomenon, cutting across all classes of persons, viz, the upper class, middle class and lower classes; the elites and masses. It is not peculiar to any one people or country. Rather it is pervasive, cutting across all peoples, not least Nigerians. It has been like that for several decades but we now have more of crashed marriages than ever before. We have heard/read of royalties, people with blue blood divorcing, politicians/leaders separating from their spouses, middle class persons turning their backs on their marriages, the common man cum average person calling it quits with their marriages, and so on and so forth. We get to hear more of crashed marriages involving celebrities, entertainers and those in similar fields because these thrive on the media and so their marriage collapses are more often splashed on the media, especially social media.
 
 However, there are thousands of other couples that quietly dissolve their marriages without making any noise about it, so to speak. Still, there are thousands, millions of women whose marriages though joyless, acrimonious, nonetheless, stick to it because of societal pressures, cultural norms. This is particularly so in Africa where women are asked to endure all manner of iniquities, domestic  violence they experience in their marriages, because of their kids, financial incapacity, the so-called respectability that society confers  on  a married woman.
 
   Marriages crash for a variety of reasons, chief among which is incompatibility of the couple.  People get married nowadays mainly for mundane, earthly, external reasons and not because of the stirrings of their souls, their inner being, their spirits. Thus we have billionaires, royalties, governors/leaders generally arranging for marriages within their folds with a view to perpetuating their socio-economic class, the upper class. There are those who marry for money, to be able to “secure their future” and those of their unborn children. Then there are those who go into marriage because a person is pretty, handsome, beautiful.  All of the above reasons are purely ephemeral. And as they are ephemeral, the marriages entered on such basis are bound to be ephemeral, collapse sooner than later. They are unsustainable in the long run. Such marriages are largely based on ulterior motives rather than on pure love that issues from the soul. Love is blind, so goes an adage. True love does not consider whether one is a millionaire or not; whether one is pretty or not; whether one is endowed in the earthly sense or not. Rather, it wells up from out of the soul and on meeting with kindred soul they naturally gravitate towards each other.
 
“Marriages are made in heaven”. The Almighty in creating us imbued us all with varying qualities. When a man enters into a relationship with a woman with qualities that are complementary to his and consummates it with marriage, there will be harmony in such a marriage because they complement each other and any activity they jointly embark upon will be of full value because it is infused with joy and love, each living to the joy and happiness of the other. Such are the marriages that are made, ‘approved’ in heaven. Needless to add that such marriages are enduring, long lasting, beneficial to the society at large.because of the harmony within them.
Victoria N. Ikeano writes via victoriangozii@gmail.com 08033077519

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Gov AbdulRazaq Lauded Over Conferment Of Sadauna Of Ilorin Title

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Stephen Olufemi Oni, Ilorin

Kwara State Governor AbdulRahman AbdulRazaq has been hailed for the conferment of the prestigious Sadauna of Ilorin Emirate title on him by His Royal Highness, the Emir of Ilorin, Alhaji (Dr.) Ibrahim Sulu-Gambari, CFR.

Giving the commendation on Tuesday in a statement in Ilorin, the state capital, Alhaji Yakubu Garba Gobir, who is the Sarkin Gobir and Madawaki of the Ilorin Emirate, described the recognition and honour on Governor AbdulRazaq as well deserved, timely and apt, giving his huge contributions to the growth and development of Ilorin Emirate and Kwara State as a whole.

Gobir specifically commended the Emir of Ilorin for conferring this distinguished title in recognition of the qualities and contributions of the new Sardauna, noting that it is a solemn call for greater responsibility, leadership, loyalty and devoted service to the Emirate and its people.

He added: “The title of Sardauna occupies a position of profound significance in the history, heritage and traditions of the Ilorin Emirate. I commend His Royal Highness, Alhaji (Dr.) Ibrahim Sulu-Gambari, CFR, the Emir of Ilorin, for conferring this distinguished title in recognition of the qualities and contributions of the new Sardauna.

“The title embodies courage, leadership, loyalty and devoted service to the Emirate and its people. Your elevation is therefore not merely a mark of honour; it is also a solemn call to greater responsibility and continued service.

“As a fellow title-holder in the Ilorin Emirate, I am particularly delighted to welcome you into this distinguished circle of traditional leadership. I am confident that you will bring to the office the same qualities of leadership, dignity and unwavering commitment to public service that have distinguished your tenure and career.

“At a time when our Emirate and our State require men and women of character, wisdom and courage to advance the interests of our people, I am certain that you will make a meaningful contribution to the enduring unity, progress and development of the Ilorin Emirate.”

Gobir offered prayers for a successful, impactful and enduring tenure for the new Sadauna, adding:
“May Almighty Allah grant you wisdom, sound health and strength, and may He make your tenure as Sardauna of Ilorin a source of lasting honour to you, your family and the entire Ilorin Emirate.”

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FG Commissions KWASU ICT Centre To Enhance Graduates Employability

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Stephen Olufemi Oni, Ilorin.

The wife of President Bola Ahmed Tinubu, Senator Oluremi Tinubu, has commissioned a TETFund/Renewed Hope Initiative-backed ICT Experience Centre at the Kwara State University (KWASU), Malete.

It would be recalled that KWASU is one of the six tertiary institutions selected for the pilot phase of this intervention, with one institution representing each of the Nigerian six geopolitical zones.

Represented at the commissioning on Tuesday by the wife of the Vice-President, Nana Shettima, Tinubu said the project is a testament to the federal government’s commitment to advancing education, digital inclusion and enhancing graduate employability.

“The TETFund/Renewed Hope Initiative ICT Experience Centre we are commissioning today represents opportunity, innovation, knowledge, and the future of young people in Kwara State and beyond.

She said: “This initiative aligns with the Renewed Hope Agenda of the administration of His Excellency, President Bola Ahmed Tinubu, GCFR, which places emphasis on youth empowerment, education, innovation, and economic transformation. Mr President is committed to creating opportunities that will equip Nigerian youths with knowledge and skills required to thrive in a modern and competitive world.”

Senator Tinubu said the facility was designed as a modern technology centre equipped with ICT laboratory, interactive digital display, conference facility, and exhibition spaces, adding that it would be an environment for learning, creativity, research, and technology advancement.

According to her, the ICT centres had been commissioned at the Ekiti State University on May 28, University of Cross Rivers State on September 4, Anambra State Polytechnic on September 10, adding that the Centres at Kaduna State University and Taraba State Universities would be commissioned soon.

“The next phase of this intervention will cover 15 institutions in Adamawa, Bayelsa, Borno, Delta, Edo, Enugu, Imo, Katsina, Nasarawa, Niger, Ondo, Osun, Rivers, Yobe, and Zamfara states which construction is currently ongoing. This expansion demonstrates the administration’s commitment to ensuring that more Nigerian youths, irrespective of their locations, have access to digital learning opportunities,” she said.

She encouraged the students to take ownership of the facility, maximise the opportunity it provides, and use technology positively to enhance their lives, community, and the nation.

In his speech, the Executive Secretary of Tetfund, Architect Sonny Echono, said the centres are being established across selected Universities, Polytechnics and Colleges of Education, with the Kwara State University, Malete proudly hosting the facility in the North-Central Zone.

“Through practical training and digital skills acquisition, TETFund seeks to enhance graduate employability, foster innovation and position Nigeria to participate more effectively in the global
technology-driven economy,” he added.

Echono also said that the ICT Experience Centre is designed to equip students and lecturers with critical digital skills in Artificial Intelligence, Cybersecurity, Robotics and Software Development.

He added: “The Centre being commissioned today is one of the foremost ICT Experience Centres being delivered across the country, and the third to be commissioned this year. The Centre is equipped with modern digital devices, Computer systems and relevant software to facilitate training, practical learning and skills development. The facility is appropriately furnished and
fully air-conditioned, with supporting power and municipal infrastructure.”

Also speaking, the Vice Chancellor of the University, Professor Shaykh- Luqman Jimoh, said the new facility represents vision, belief, and an investment in the Nigerian youth to better shape the future of our
nation.

The Vice Chancellor described the ICT Experience Centre as an investment in human capital, in innovation, in entrepreneurship, and, most importantly, it is an investment in the future of Nigeria.

“This Centre will provide opportunities for our students to develop practical digital skills and engage with contemporary technologies. Importantly, it is our hub for interdisciplinary engagement.

“This ICT Experience Centre is therefore a timely, critical, and strategic infrastructure that will definitely enhance research, teaching, learning, entrepreneurship, and community service. This intervention is at the core of what this university seeks from partners and donors: synergies that add value and impact on today and the future,” he started.

KWASU Vice Chancellor also assured that the ICT Experience Centre would be put to maximum use for the benefit of students, researchers, and the University
community, adding that the “KWASU community would engage with the facilities in this Centre, we will use it. We will explore, experiment, learn, and innovate in i

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2027: Violent ;Kaduna as ADC, APC Supporters Trade Accusations….APC Calls For Police Investigation into the Vandalisation, attacks on its Office

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By Hassan Agboola

Tension is mounting in Kaduna State ahead of the 2027 general elections, following renewed exchanges between supporters of the African Democratic Congress (ADC) and groups backing the administration of Governor Uba Sani.
The latest development came on Tuesday when ADC governorship candidate, Isa Ashiru, addressed supporters in Kaduna and, according to an account of his remarks, declared that the party was prepared to respond to attacks against its members.
Ashiru was also quoted as saying that it was Governor Uba Sani, rather than President Bola Ahmed Tinubu, who was responsible for the continued detention of former Kaduna State Governor, Nasir El-Rufai.

However, available public records show that El-Rufai’s detention followed proceedings before the Independent Corrupt Practices and Other Related Offences Commission (ICPC), with the commission stating that his continued custody was based on a court-issued remand order.

The controversy over El-Rufai’s detention has nevertheless become a major political issue in Kaduna and beyond. The ADC has repeatedly criticised the handling of the former governor’s case and alleged political persecution, while other political actors have made different claims about the circumstances surrounding his detention.
Rising political temperature

Ashiru’s emergence as the ADC governorship candidate has added another dimension to the political contest in Kaduna. He defeated other aspirants at the party’s governorship primary in May 2026 and is now preparing for another governorship contest after previously representing the PDP in the 2019 and 2023 elections.
The political atmosphere has been further complicated by disagreements within the ADC and accusations from different groups over the party’s leadership and candidates.

A Southern Kaduna political group, for instance, recently questioned Ashiru’s candidacy and the choice of his running mate, allegations rejected by an ADC official.
The situation has also produced incidents involving ADC supporters and security personnel. In one recent incident, police dispersed an ADC solidarity walk in Kaduna, while the party subsequently accused opponents of attacking its members and warned that political violence could escalate ahead of the 2027 elections.

The former governor remains an important factor in the emerging political contest. El-Rufai was taken into custody in February 2026 after responding to an invitation from the ICPC. His family subsequently demanded his release, while the anti-graft agency maintained that his detention was authorised by a court.
Since then, the issue has increasingly featured in political statements by the ADC and its supporters, with the party accusing the Federal Government of political persecution and calling for the former governor’s release.
The development has created a new political fault line involving the ADC, the APC-led Kaduna State Government and supporters of the former governor.

While allegations have been exchanged over who is responsible for political violence in Kaduna, the competing narratives should not be confused with established findings. The ADC itself has recently rejected the suggestion that it has a monopoly on political violence and accused unnamed opponents of introducing thuggery into the 2027 political process.

With the 2027 election campaign yet to fully commence, the increasingly combative language from ISA Ashiru and his supporters has raised concerns about the possibility of further confrontation.
The immediate challenge before the political parties, security agencies and community leaders is therefore to ensure that political disagreements do not degenerate into violence, particularly in a state with Kaduna’s history of politically and communally sensitive conflicts.
As at the time of filling tid report the All progressive congress, APC , Kaduna state in a statement has condemned the attacks on its office and called for police investigation
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APC Condemns Violent Attacks on Members, Party Offices in Kaduna
The Kaduna State chapter of the All Progressives Congress (APC) has condemned alleged violent attacks on its members and the vandalisation of party offices and properties in the state.
The party also called on the police and other security agencies to investigate the incidents and ensure that those responsible are brought to justice.
In a statement, the Kaduna State APC Publicity Secretary, Sani Dan-Azare, alleged that some of the party’s members and supporters had been attacked, while some party and support-group offices were vandalised.
He also alleged that vehicles belonging to some party members were damaged during the incidents.
The APC described the attacks as unacceptable and urged security agencies to conduct a thorough and impartial investigation to establish the circumstances surrounding the incidents.
The party called on its members and supporters to remain calm and law-abiding, stressing that they should not resort to retaliation or take the law into their own hands.
The APC said it remained committed to peaceful political engagement and urged all political actors in Kaduna State to conduct their activities within the bounds of the law.
It further appealed to security agencies to strengthen security around party offices and other sensitive locations to prevent further incidents.

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